Ways I Cope : Do you do any of these?If yes,you are coping with stress
Go through the checklist and put a check mark next to any item that describes how you reacted, even once, to a difficult situation, whether minor or major. If the item is a way you regularly react, put two checks. It is day to day situations that arise for you.
I confront the situation head on.
I distance myself from the situation.
I distance myself from myself.
I control myself.
I use relaxation techniques
I escape through dissociation or forgetting
I escape through abusing alcohol or other drugs (including prescription drugs)
I act to take care of things myself.
I become very aware of the needs and emotions of others.
I learn or develop special skills.
I call a friend
I call a supportive family member.
I call unsupportive friend or family member.
I keep on trying and trying and trying.
I become very tolerant.
I try to get all the facts.
I imagine the worst possible ending.
I debate things within myself.
I try to see the situation as positive.
I see myself as bad.
I see myself as a failure.
I shame myself.
I accept responsibility when appropriate.
I create appropriate boundaries with other people.
I create rigid boundaries.
I give up my boundaries.
I use fantasy to escape.
I become totally involved in taking care of someone else, not myself.
I play down the seriousness of what is happening (minimize).
I try to earn forgiveness for wrongdoing.
I show a sense of humor.
I do something creative.
I turn to a higher source of wisdom (this could involve another person, a book, or a Higher Power).
I trap myself.
I make do with what I have.
I watch television.
I do busywork.
I educate myself.
I abuse others.
I neglect myself (poor diet, little exercise)
I hold onto rigid or irrational beliefs.
I find a physical release (walk, swim)
I repeatedly hurt myself.
I make suicidal threats or gestures.
I attempt suicide.
I do art work.
I write in a journal.
I work at a hobby.
I find a mission.
I seek out a social situation.
I talk with others about what happened.
I find someone who will listen to me.
I seek out emotional support.
I find help to complete certain tasks.
I find help with problem solving.
I help others.
I just don’t think about it.
I deny the impact of the event.
I deny that the event even happened.
I lose sight of the facts.
I learn more about what happened.
I blame myself.
I split into alternate selves.
I involve myself in daily tasks.
I avoid daily tasks.
I overcontrol myself.
I lay guilt trips on others.
I don’t sleep.
I overcontrol my environment.
I create chaos around me.
I become perfectionistic.
I do criminal or illegal acts.
I see the world in a negative light.
I act in ways so others will see me negatively.
I turn to my Higher Power.
I turn to the safest person I know.
I identify the sources of my fear.
I express my anger without hurting myself or others.
I become enraged and express anger in ways that can be hurtful or harmful to myself or others.
I become addicted to relationships.
I become over dependent.
I develop a compulsive behaviour.
I develop an obsession.
I do things to excess.
I seek out others who have experienced the same thing.
I go to therapy.
I join a support group.
I remind myself that things could be worse.
I look for any sense of meaning that will help explain what happened.
I decide I just won’t be bothered by what happened.